Every day I write to 100,000+ grandmas about the things we don't always say out loud: grandkids who grow too fast, phone calls that end too soon, and the small joys that make it all worth it.
With love, Devoted Grandma ♡
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I think one of the hardest things for a grandmother to admit is that sometimes, our grandchildren seem to prefer their other grandma. Maybe they get more excited when she calls. Maybe they ask to…
Nine gentle ways to show interest in your older grandchild’s life while giving them room to decide what they want to share.
Have you ever taken your grandchild to a family gathering, birthday party, church event, or holiday dinner and noticed them suddenly becoming quieter than usual? Perhaps they were sitting in a corner, fiddling with something…
When your grandchild follows through, one truthful line can show that you noticed without making them feel watched, graded, or expected to be perfect.
We all wish we could protect our grandchildren from every disappointment, every hurt feeling, and every difficult day. If it were up to us grandmas, their biggest problems would be deciding which cookie to eat…
See how one playful role reversal can help you connect with your grandchild, without putting either of you on the spot.
We grandmas can carry on a conversation anywhere. A checkout line, a school hallway, the bleachers at a ballgame- give us a friendly face, and we’ll find something to talk about. And naturally, our grandchildren…
Share one modest success, invite your grandchild to share or pass, and make room for good news without comparison, pressure, or interrogation.
When our grandchildren come over, we hope they bring their appetites, their stories, and perhaps the jacket they usually leave behind. What we don’t want is for them to bring a whole list of worries…
A completed example and five simple steps can help Grandma apologize, make things right, and reconnect without excuses or pressure.
There are things we remember about raising our children that still make us smile. The birthday cakes we stayed up decorating. The school shoes we somehow found money for. The nights we sat beside a…
A reusable one-line formula and a simple boundary check help Grandma appreciate a grandchild’s attention without turning remembering into a job.
November has a way of making us grandmas count our blessings, and somehow, our grandkids’ names always land near the top of the list. Right alongside them is the blessing of being able to send…
Eight adaptable texts and a quick chooser help Grandma offer comfort, space, encouragement, or practical support after an ordinary setback.
We, grandmas, love hearing that knock at the door. Sometimes our grandkids come tumbling in with stories, backpacks, and shoes that somehow land in three different places. Other times, they hang back a little, waiting…
A simple three-minute routine helps Grandma learn whether a grandchild wants comfort, questions, practical help, or simply a caring listener.
Good morning, my fellow grandmas! Before our grandchildren put on their costumes and begin negotiating how much candy counts as “just a little,” we have a sweet opportunity to send some love their way. A…
Nine adaptable texts and a simple chooser help Grandma support a grandchild’s new school, job, home, or activity without asking for a report.
We grandmas love making our families feel welcome. We bring out the snacks, make room on the couch, and have our hugs ready before anyone reaches the front door. But sometimes, little things we hardly…
A simple four-part capacity card helps Grandma make an honest babysitting commitment, whether the right answer is yes, no, or a smaller offer.
A reusable one-line response and a simple boundary check can help Grandma accept an ordinary change of mind without guilt, interrogation, or logistical confusion.
“Everything’s fine, Grandma.” Sometimes, everything really is fine. Other times, those three words are doing an awful lot of work. Our grandkids notice how deeply we care. They know we remember the appointment, ask about…
